Recent food wins

Since our many Charlie’s orders I have continued to seek thoughtful and healthy food plans.
Here are some of my recent wins.

  1. Roasted Cauliflower
    Two Sunday nights I roasted cauliflower. Those weeks it became my default snack.
    It is fairly healthy and difficult to binge.
    It relieves a moment of boredom, but does not provide any emotional comfort.
  2. Push the bowl away
    I’ve been doing a better jobs of recognising moments of hunger and times of fullness.A) When I feel hungry I try to: wait 20mins, drink a glass of water or sip tea. Mostly giving my brain some time to figure out if I really am hungry or if hunger is merely in front of a different feeling.B) When I feel full, I stop eating. Revolutionary. Rather than keep eating the delicious thing or finishing all the food on my plate, I’ve been trying to listen to my body and stop.
  3. Meal planning
    The side of our fridge now has a plan for a week’s dinner meals (and occasionally details if we are hosting lunch). I know, I know. Many of my friends have been doing this for years. But now I’m on the band wagon.Stephen and I are eating a wider range of food and usually we have planned meal prep time into our day/week.
    It has also made inviting people over better because we vaguely know all the food easily ready to eat.
  4. Tofu
    “Teach me Tofu” I asked.
    Kamina answered with a two hour session where she taught me about tofu – we shopped and talked and cooked. And deliciousness was achieved. Seriously guys: quiche, chocolate mousse, pad thai!
    Kamina of ninakardia and wewriteyou internet presence has launched a new venture lifelongvegan.Stephen and I are pleased to be learning from her and enjoying food and meal prep more and more. Oh and improving our diet and nutrition.

Life Event: Dietary requirements due to chronic health

I recently organised 40 of my mother’s friends to gather for her birthday celebration. There was one person with an allergy, and one who was a vegetarian. If I gathered 40 of my friends our dietary requirements and preferences would be diverse and complicated.

Meet my friend Agnes, who has been learning manage her diet, hospitality, and ensuing social interactions.

What is a book or tv show you enjoyed in primary school?Why did you like it?
I loved to read the Secret Garden. I think I loved that she had a secret world away from everything that she could work on and make beautiful 🙂

Give us a quick overview of the details in your life event?
Having had chronic health issues for more than ten years, twelve months ago I discovered significant intolerances to certain naturally occurring chemicals in food (Salicylates, Amines and Glutamates). This has led to a significant improvement in day to day health; however it has led to a strict diet that means that it is very hard to eat out or eat something someone else has prepared.

What’s it like?
I have really gone through the full extent of the grief cycle. I know it seems crazy to grieve for the food you can’t eat…but I was a foodie! So it has been an emotional year:  Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. However, I am still on this cycle and still experience all of these feelings at various times. Overall, I try to live in the acceptance camp. But it isn’t easy.  I have been frustrated and tried to figure out any way out of it. How to fix it. Mostly I have been depressed by it. I am trying to recognise that what I eat doesn’t define me. It shouldn’t fill an emotional hole. And that has actually been helpful, although being forced into it has meant that it has been extra frustrating.

What was a helpful thing someone did at that time?
Sat and let me cry about it. Designed a dinner party around foods I could eat without making it seem like it was a burden. Made me biscuits. Made me meals. Happily ate the food that I made and expressed enjoyment.
What was an unhelpful thing someone did at that time? Assumed it was a choice I was making, and tried to convince me not to make this choice.

What would you want the people around you to know?
I don’t want to be a burden, so I won’t ask you to cook for me. However, it is really hard to always be the person eating something different. There is just something about having someone prepare and meal and you all join in together to eat it. It is hard to always be the odd one out.

What ways could we love you in your present season?
Don’t always ask me about what it is like, although this is occasionally ok. I will probably tell you it’s fine and I’m much healthier etc. That is my way of trying to accept this. But if you can occasionally make a meal that I can share with you, or express happiness for me to make a meal for you that I can eat. That will go a long way to helping me not to feel alone.

Fruit & Vegetable Box

the Large Family Fruit & Vegetable box from Charlie’s is on sale this month. I am about to order our 4th box. Yes, 4th box of the month.

This financial windfall has coincided with rethinking my approach to food, and Stephen being dragged along. I’ll detail our current situation, but coming posts will consider other people’s situations.

These topics are fairly neutral to me.
But for many of my friends and probably for some of my readers they are rife with strife. (Yes, I did enjoy that rhyme).
Some struggle with eating disorders, some with comfort eating, some adjusting to financial strain, some managing restricted diets, some are at odds with their family or housemates’ views.
If these things trigger, please seek support. Call a friend, call Lifeline.

Eating disorders are one of the scariest mental health topics– your brain can not function or improve when your body is not receiving nutrients.

The major change is planned meals at home.

Our reasons are:

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