Triple Treat: board games on high rotation

Yes, we are board game geeks.

Late high school and early uni, Stephen had two group of friends regularly gathering to play Risk. Which is essentially a dice rolling game that goes forever… and forever… and is mostly luck.

Once we started dating I tried to curb the late nights of dice rolling. But this established group of friends wanted to keep playing games – their preference of social interaction over dinner or movies or conversation or walks.

Thus began my investigation into other board games. Mostly fuelled early on by Board Game Geek.
Over the past decade our collection has grown from early beginnings of Carcassonne and Risk 2210 A.D. (the best version, it includes strategy) to become a hobby  Stephen and I enjoy together, and share with friends and family.

These three games are on high rotation at our place. They are easy to teach and learn, provide fun for both the newcomer and experienced gamer.

  1. Concept
    The aim is to use provided icons to produce clues for other players to guess what you are describing. Think Pictionary with added fun and drawing ability eliminated. We always play this collaboratively – though there is a team scoring mechanic.
    It’s great with kids and adults; it’s great with new gamers; it’s great for people who prefer to watch.
  2. Carcassonne
    Tile laying game seeking to complete city features to gain points and win the game. The rules are quick to explain and understand. The game is enjoyable for most people. Different temperaments can play together – the deep strategist, the nimble tactician, the companionable disinterested.
  3. Qwirkle
    Mild spatial awareness game, placing tiles in lines of matching colour or shape of symbols. Quick to learn and easy to play, it allows for both deep and light concentration.

I like games because

  • FUN
  • mind stretching
  • low key social interaction
  • personalities’ expressed

Apart from my own house, Netherworld is my current favourite gaming location.

Board games can be expensive it’s great to check a game before you buy it. There a bunch of local games stores in Brisbane now, but I still use Australian Board Game Shopper to look for sales.

Recent food wins

Since our many Charlie’s orders I have continued to seek thoughtful and healthy food plans.
Here are some of my recent wins.

  1. Roasted Cauliflower
    Two Sunday nights I roasted cauliflower. Those weeks it became my default snack.
    It is fairly healthy and difficult to binge.
    It relieves a moment of boredom, but does not provide any emotional comfort.
  2. Push the bowl away
    I’ve been doing a better jobs of recognising moments of hunger and times of fullness.A) When I feel hungry I try to: wait 20mins, drink a glass of water or sip tea. Mostly giving my brain some time to figure out if I really am hungry or if hunger is merely in front of a different feeling.B) When I feel full, I stop eating. Revolutionary. Rather than keep eating the delicious thing or finishing all the food on my plate, I’ve been trying to listen to my body and stop.
  3. Meal planning
    The side of our fridge now has a plan for a week’s dinner meals (and occasionally details if we are hosting lunch). I know, I know. Many of my friends have been doing this for years. But now I’m on the band wagon.Stephen and I are eating a wider range of food and usually we have planned meal prep time into our day/week.
    It has also made inviting people over better because we vaguely know all the food easily ready to eat.
  4. Tofu
    “Teach me Tofu” I asked.
    Kamina answered with a two hour session where she taught me about tofu – we shopped and talked and cooked. And deliciousness was achieved. Seriously guys: quiche, chocolate mousse, pad thai!
    Kamina of ninakardia and wewriteyou internet presence has launched a new venture lifelongvegan.Stephen and I are pleased to be learning from her and enjoying food and meal prep more and more. Oh and improving our diet and nutrition.

Five Things: to love about Black Sheep

I’m a frequent customer at Black Sheep Coffee Woolloongabba.
Our creative writers’ group meets there weekly and I often venture there alone.

Here’s five things I love there.

  1. Walking distance from my house
  2. Great coffee (and beans to take home)
  3. Lovely staff
  4. Communal table & free wifi
  5. Best cafe toilet in Brisbane – as pronounced by Brisbane freelancers wewriteyou

    BONUS
    Treats by Alphabet Cafe

Life Event: Single in your 30s ish

Sometimes it feels like all of life is structured around school terms. Which don’t really impact the rhythm of my life at all.

Here are reflections of two single friends on what we do badly, and how we can love them more.

Agnes A
What is a book or tv show you enjoyed in primary school? Why did you like it?

In primary school I lived for the TV series Around the Twist. I waited pretty desperately for Saturday 5pm to role around. It seemed a very long time between episodes. I’m not sure why I liked it so much, because I didn’t really like the books. I think it was the theme song that hooked me in. Also it might have been the first Australian television show I enjoyed. My favourite book was The Little Princess by Francis Hodgson Bernard. I loved the wonderful surprise at the end of the story. I’m a sucker for a happy ending. I was truly delighted that the central character didn’t have to suffer her awful school forever!

Give us a quick overview of the details in your life event?
I haven’t ever been married. When I had opportunity to meet somebody I wasn’t ready and when I was ready there wasn’t anybody to meet!

What’s it like?
I do well when I can distract myself through activities that make me happy like mountain climbing and planning my next big adventure. I really struggle when I have to work constantly and don’t have time for fun.

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Life Event: Dietary requirements due to chronic health

I recently organised 40 of my mother’s friends to gather for her birthday celebration. There was one person with an allergy, and one who was a vegetarian. If I gathered 40 of my friends our dietary requirements and preferences would be diverse and complicated.

Meet my friend Agnes, who has been learning manage her diet, hospitality, and ensuing social interactions.

What is a book or tv show you enjoyed in primary school?Why did you like it?
I loved to read the Secret Garden. I think I loved that she had a secret world away from everything that she could work on and make beautiful 🙂

Give us a quick overview of the details in your life event?
Having had chronic health issues for more than ten years, twelve months ago I discovered significant intolerances to certain naturally occurring chemicals in food (Salicylates, Amines and Glutamates). This has led to a significant improvement in day to day health; however it has led to a strict diet that means that it is very hard to eat out or eat something someone else has prepared.

What’s it like?
I have really gone through the full extent of the grief cycle. I know it seems crazy to grieve for the food you can’t eat…but I was a foodie! So it has been an emotional year:  Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. However, I am still on this cycle and still experience all of these feelings at various times. Overall, I try to live in the acceptance camp. But it isn’t easy.  I have been frustrated and tried to figure out any way out of it. How to fix it. Mostly I have been depressed by it. I am trying to recognise that what I eat doesn’t define me. It shouldn’t fill an emotional hole. And that has actually been helpful, although being forced into it has meant that it has been extra frustrating.

What was a helpful thing someone did at that time?
Sat and let me cry about it. Designed a dinner party around foods I could eat without making it seem like it was a burden. Made me biscuits. Made me meals. Happily ate the food that I made and expressed enjoyment.
What was an unhelpful thing someone did at that time? Assumed it was a choice I was making, and tried to convince me not to make this choice.

What would you want the people around you to know?
I don’t want to be a burden, so I won’t ask you to cook for me. However, it is really hard to always be the person eating something different. There is just something about having someone prepare and meal and you all join in together to eat it. It is hard to always be the odd one out.

What ways could we love you in your present season?
Don’t always ask me about what it is like, although this is occasionally ok. I will probably tell you it’s fine and I’m much healthier etc. That is my way of trying to accept this. But if you can occasionally make a meal that I can share with you, or express happiness for me to make a meal for you that I can eat. That will go a long way to helping me not to feel alone.

Five things: to give

My Dad is a present person.
He loves to identify things that will delight and use them to recognise moments.
Finished a big assignment, started a new job, anniversary, just because.

Here are five things you could give someone… or give me.

  1. Vegetable bouquet
    Yes really. So pretty and then you eat it.
    Nourish Posy Co delivers around Brisbane.
  2. Meaningful card
    Your written words matter. Say something encouraging, say something true.
    Emily McDowell makes beautiful and unusual ones.
  3. Keepcup
    Useful and good for the environment – plus most coffee shops give a discount for keepcups.
    Frank Green‘s you could throw in your handbag and still drink hot coffee 30mins later.
  4. Experience
    Enjoyable time, makes a good memory, doesn’t take up any space on the shelf.
    Theatre/Film or Music for me please. Perhaps sports or activity for others…
  5. Voucher
    Sometimes the recipient knows what they need, and this feels slightly better than giving cash.
    Netherworld do gift cards. Also Charlie’s … But supermarket/Bunnings are helpful for most people.

I forgive you

We were going through a stage of trite apologies in many of our interactions.
So for a month, Stephen and I tried to respond to every ‘I’m sorry’ with ‘I forgive you’.

It did a few helpful things for our relationship.

1. Our apologies weighed more.
Sincerity and need mattered. Did we mean it? Did it require apology?

2. Our forgiveness was more valued.
Our justified hurt/anger/frustration required effort to forgive, rather than just accept an apology. Our forgiveness moved to precede our apologies.

3. Our relationship was more developed.
Forgiveness points to restoration of relationship. It affirmed we were a couple who loved and forgave one another. We affirmed we would continue to do the hard work of apologising and forgiving.

Now years later – it’s still bearing fruit in our relationship.

The occasional eye roll for apologies offered at the drop of the hat.
The meaningful act of forgiveness.
The recognition of many, many little steps in loving each other.

A note on illicit drugs

So last month I wrote a few posts on alcohol. What about drugs?

Ready,
DON’T take them.
Did that answer really surprise you?

Because drugs are super scary.
They have stronger and faster effects than alcohol.

People die every day because their body reacted badly
– either the drug made their body stop working properly OR
– under the influence of drugs they made life threatening choices OR
– after one taste their body changed to want that drug incessantly.

Under the illicit drugs category I include marijuana, heroin, ice etc AND unprescribed medication.

“The number of Australians currently overdosing on addictive medication is overtaking the road toll, the majority of these are accidental.” Alcohol & Drug Foundation

Prescribed medications are not illicit drugs (if they are prescribed for the person taking them and taken as prescribed). I am privileged to live in Brisbane where we have access to doctors, pharmacies and medicine.
There is interesting research happening with medical marijuana, but I’m not convinced yet.

Drugs and addiction are not things I know much about. I’ve had hallucinations, sleep paralysis, times of uncontrollable highs and stretches of deep lows as part of my messy mental health. I want to avoid inducing those symptoms or delusions even as I pursue escapism.

Casual user
IF you are trying drugs:
Think about it in advance.
Be with people you trust.
Do not mix them with alcohol.
Have someone who can call 000.

Obviously people are unlikely to follow this but I still feel it is important to say.

My series on Alcohol is also up on the blog.
Consumption
Service
How to host a cocktail party
Visible Excess
Invisible Excess
Relationship

Triple Treat: Old School Music

High School
I turned up eagerly in shiny navy and bright jade.

I was looking forward to learning.
I was looking forward to friendships.
I was looking forward to distance from bullies.
I was looking forward to an environment away from my parents.
My first week of high school destroys all those aspirations – but grade 11 was a good year.

It was a good year because
– suddenly classes were smaller and focused
– relationships at school and elsewhere were established
– my faith had deepened and sharpened
– my playlist widened

This month I’ve been returning to the albums on repeat that year.

1. Moondance, Van Morrison

2. Slightly Odway, Jebediah (I’d forgotten all the swearing)

3. Take Five, Dave Brubeck

Distraction – thy name is organisation

I have a task to do. It’s not that big. It’s not that hard. But I don’t want to do it.
I need to find a piece of paper. A financial piece of paper. It is somewhere in our filing cabinet.
But the filing cabinet is more of a contained pile of paper than files.
Or it could be on one of many USBs thrown into my desk drawer.

Instead – I’ve organised everything else.

Our pantry, kitchen cupboards, wardrobes, desk, craft shelves, furniture.
My sister’s pantry.
My parents’ pantry and spice rack.
Our books and games.

Shopping lists.
Meal plans.
Birthday presents.
Study plans.
Holiday plans.
Blog plans.

All culled, sorted, cleaned and labelled.
Soon the only thing left to do… will be to open the filing pile.