the Large Family Fruit & Vegetable box from Charlie’s is on sale this month. I am about to order our 4th box. Yes, 4th box of the month.
This financial windfall has coincided with rethinking my approach to food, and Stephen being dragged along. I’ll detail our current situation, but coming posts will consider other people’s situations.
These topics are fairly neutral to me.
But for many of my friends and probably for some of my readers they are rife with strife. (Yes, I did enjoy that rhyme).
Some struggle with eating disorders, some with comfort eating, some adjusting to financial strain, some managing restricted diets, some are at odds with their family or housemates’ views.
If these things trigger, please seek support. Call a friend, call Lifeline.
Eating disorders are one of the scariest mental health topics– your brain can not function or improve when your body is not receiving nutrients.
The major change is planned meals at home.
Our reasons are:
We need to eat more vegetables.
Putting more vegetables in our fridge means we eat more. Our current season provides me the luxury of time. I’m able to search for recipes, do meal preparation and cook. I understand my friends who struggle to carve out meal prep time or find cooking for one disheartening: by all means use Hello Fresh or Five point Four to put healthy balanced meals in your week.
I need to lose weight.
My BMI is heading toward obesity, but mostly I don’t like how I feel right now. My body feels sluggish and exercise is hard. Recently I articulated my goals as being strong enough to carry shopping home from the supermarket and fit enough to climb three flights of stairs comfortably.
Stephen needs to gain weight.
He has always struggled to keep weight on. It was only a few years ago he stopped looking underweight.
Obviously our two goals clash. We manage this (somewhat) with Stephen having carb loaded, fatty lunches and me having a double serve of vegetables with dinner.
ACTION: Charlie’s order
If five people go out for a meal –$100+.
$100 could instead provide many meals for many people at home.
Money spent on better quality fresh ingredients, on exploring different foods and building meaningful connection.
We have increased our groceries budget, but ultimately are spending less money on food. I am more relaxed buying a drink out because I know the finances are under control.
But I do realise we are incredibly wealthy and paying for the spontaneous meal out is a great privilege.
ACTION: Meal planning – but include planning of meals out e.g. lunch at Netherworld next week.
It turns out neither Stephen or I value conversing at restaurants. I dislike being interrupted, being in a noisy space and others having the opportunity to listen. Stephen dislikes the unpredictable nature of conversation i.e. how much talking will I need to do before our food arrives.
At home we manage the timing of food, we ensure there are no interruptions. We have privacy to discuss difficult topics.
ACTION: Invite people over.
Friends came over in the afternoon but lingered til dinnerish time. We got to 7pm, realised our hunger and the lack of food available. We used Deliveroo for the first time.
Friday night had been planned for Stephen and I, but slowly the people count grew. We didn’t have food or energy to cook for more people. Out we went to a restaurant.
Why was I paying extra for someone else to prepare meals? – I could do that if I was organised.
ACTION: Organise. My kitchen now has the ability to feed 8 people at any point (this was a big change from the previous 2 people).
It’s only been a few weeks…
but we are eating more vegetables, spending less money on food and enjoying sharing meals with friends and family at home. I’m calling it a win. And it will be even better if these changes become routine.